I didn’t write anything last week. If you follow my page on Facebook then you may have caught a quick post about what I did do last week. It consisted of:
- Writing/Editing for the Military Spouse Advocacy Network
- I write two blog posts and two social media shares a month for the Military Spouse Advocacy Network. I write about topics and issues new military spouses may be curious about. You can look forward to reading about my first trip to the commissary and if military spouses are allowed to be involved or vocal in politics. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the opportunity to do this and have learned so much in such a short amount of time. I hope to continue doing this for as long as possible.
- Researching immigration procedures
- My husband is an immigrant. No he isn’t my mail order bride. He arrived as a teenager with his mom and brother, became a permanent resident for 5 years and then applied for citizenship. Despite watching my husband go through the legal process to citizenship, I still didn’t know much about the procedure and all it entails. This week my eyes were widened when just taking a few moments to peruse the USICS website. I have a masters degree and consider myself a pretty intelligent person. I still struggled with understanding some of the logistics and proper procedures one would take to be granted a visa into the country. So when people say that illegal immigrants just need to do things the “right and legal way”. They need to get off their high fucking horse. It’s not as simple as they try to make it seem. And the wait times are crazy. Oh and they also just raised their fees. On average fees went up 21%, but they can only claim fame to that low-ish sounding increase because while some fees only went up $20, others damn near doubled.
- I wasn’t only interested in learning more about immigration because of my husband being an immigrant, but also because a number of my friends are as well. And with the political climate around immigration right now, a few of them came to me and shared their own personal experiences and fears they are having right now. I have two friends with spouses in the military. Their husbands are American-born and now they(my friends) are seeking citizenship. I also have another friend who applied for the DACA program but whether or not she will be allowed to continue to stay remains to be up in the air with the new administration.
- Quick little fun fact about the DACA program: to qualify you cannot have been “convicted of a felony, significant misdemeanor,or three or more other misdemeanors, and do not otherwise pose a threat to national security or public safety”. A significant misdemeanor includes a DUI. My US representative, Matt Gaetz, was arrested for a DUI in 2008 and avoided conviction thanks to his daddy being a US Senator and now gets to represent the 1st district of Florida. Moral of the story: when you’re a white male and know the right people, you can drive under the influence and not only avoid criminal convictions, you can also hold a position of power. If you’re an immigrant seeking permission to stay in the only country you’ve known as your home, toe the line and even then- good fucking luck.
- Researching contraception and abortion
- It is not a secret that I am a huge supporter of choices and education in contraception. I also always considered myself as pro-choice under the radar. I never voiced my opinion on the issue because it is so controversial and even though I would say I was pro-choice if asked, I didn’t really take the time to consider the details of what the meant for me. Do I support abortion at any time during pregnancy? When does life truly begin? Do I only support in times of rape, incest or the woman’s health?
- I decided it wasn’t enough to simply have an opinion, I wanted to truly understand what I was having an opinion about, how and why others felt the way they did and to be able to justify my own stance if ever called on my shit.
- The end result was: you can literally find anything on the internet to support what you already believe so I won’t even bother linking you to any of the sources I found, because if you you believe differently, you will also find sources to support your beliefs. Regardless, what I ended up with- and in no way am I trying to convince you of changing what you may already believe, just sharing my current position- I am still pro-choice. I think women should be able to have access to safe abortions up to 20 weeks. It is only after 20 weeks that a fetus has developed enough to sustain life outside of the womb and even then the chances of survivability are extremely low. A majority of abortions occur during this timeframe and I do not think it is my place to judge the reasoning for a woman to feel like she is not prepared to be a mother.
- I understand that many disagree with this stance. But I also understand that fewer unwanted pregnancies occur due to carelessness of not using contraception and instead occur due to failed contraception. Women should not be forced into continuing a pregnancy that is unwanted, it’s not best for the woman and it would not be best for that child if they were carried full term.
- CDC Stats: Women in their twenties accounted for the majority of abortions in 2013 and throughout the period of analysis. The majority of abortions in 2013 took place early in gestation: 91.6% of abortions were performed at ≤13 weeks’ gestation; a smaller number of abortions (7.1%) were performed at 14–20 weeks’ gestation, and even fewer (1.3%) were performed at ≥21 weeks’ gestation.
- We’ve spent decades pushing condoms (failure rate of 18%), birth control pills (failure rate of 9%), or abstinence(puh-lease) as the best or only forms of preventing pregnancy and there are now better options. Long-term contraception such as implants and IUDs are more effective; the failure rate of an IUD is .8%, but they’re also more expensive so insurance companies do not want to pay for them. It was only under the Affordable Care Act that insurance is required to cover these options for women’s health. I hope it stays this way, because due to the increase in education and access to free contraception, abortion rates have fallen considerably. Source.
- Eating a lot of food
- I seriously fell off the wagon when it came to diet and exercise. I was blowing a lot of smoke apparently with all that talk about sticking to my plans, and tracking, and “something clicking”. I’m human. It happens. We’ll try again tomorrow.
- Updating my résumé and looking into more things that make money because… bills
- I’ve been in Florida since December. I’ve tentatively been looking for paying jobs while here, but we always knew we would only be here short term before moving on with my husband’s flight school. Well we should be moving on in the next couple months, so I thought it would be wise to start looking more aggressively for a gig that pays at our next destination.
So I took a break from my personal writing and completed the above items. But oh how I’ve missed the clicking of my keyboard and also reading updates from fellow bloggers. So I’m back! Did you notice I was gone? It’s ok if not. I have some pretty exciting ideas for future posts, so be sure to not let me fall off the grid again!